Princess Diana's brother, Charles Spencer, who delivered his sister's eulogy was interviewed on the CBS News Sunday Morning show today (March 15, 2015). In the course of the interview he said (in response to interviewer Tracy Smith's statement "It has been close to 20 years." "Yeah, I met someone the other day who was so interesting, she had actually lost her sister in a car crash, in fact the same time. And I said, 'How is it for you?' And she said, 'Well, the pain's the same, it's just the tears are less.' And that's very profound."

I originally wrote this article for Marty Tousley's Grief Healing Blog. You can find it at:   
It is only through holding our own broken hearts and wounds in an attentive and compassionate embrace, that we can, over time, move through our grief to some stage of peace and resolution.  ~ Brad Hunter

Research studies confirm that the practice of meditation and mindfulness changes our brains and our lives; reduces pain, anxiety, confusion and stress; boosts the immune system; and increases concentration, focus and compassion, among its many other benefits. In addition, the practice of meditation and mindfulness can assist us in healing our grief, because it helps us live in the present moment...where our grief resides. It gives us better access to the "now," thereby helping us become more aware of our pain and sadness, and in turn begin to heal it. Distracting ourselves from our grief is necessary and helpful from time to time, but repeatedly avoiding pain and grief only serves to prolong the journey to healing. Any tool that can increase concentration and focus and bring us to that place where grief resides (the present moment) is surely a tool that will facilitate grief healing. As a dedicated advocate of the use of meditation and as a fellow mourner, my hope is that others learn how helpful it can be as they walk the labyrinth of grief in their own lives.


A Look at Reflections

Welcome to my blog. Reflections, was the name of the weekly column I wrote for sixteen years for three different newspapers. That chapter behind me, this new version of Reflections will run here with hopes that, like my columns over the years, each post will lead you to reflect, mull,  ponder and perhaps occasionally use to enhance your life. I hope you will read my first post, From Reeling to Healing.
Early in my journey through the grief of losing my husband Bill, I likened the journey through grief to walking a labyrinth. A labyrinth is used for meditation and reflecting. It is a circular but single path taking those who walk it to the circle's center. The path goes first in one direction, then another opposite direction. It goes around, back and forth, in towards the center and back out to the edge several times ultimately ending in the center, a place of enlightenment and peace. Like grief the journey is far from a straight line and often feels as if we are going nowhere or repeating our steps.


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